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please help! desperate need of advice

Well I've been dating this guy for about a year now and we have been pretty much inseparatable ever since. Well he is a huge momma's boy and seems to always put her first. Every since we met its caused a lot of fights.

I'm really close to my family but this is a totally different relationship. His mom depends on him for everything and doesn't let us live our own life. Its gotten to the point now if I say anything to him about it bothering me he just gets defensive and it ends up turning into a fight. And because of that we have had a lot of fights that we shouldn't have and now its taken a toll on both of us and changed us into people we don't even know.

I want nothing more than to be with this guy and marry him, but I don't know how to fix our relationship. The guy I'm with now isn't the guy I met a year ago, he's changed so much. He's not sweet and understanding anymore. Also I had a bad bad relationship before him that left me very broken hearted and scared. It's hard for me to trust a guy and have faith since I was hurt so bad in my past and now that we have changed and we fight so much I get to where I don't trust him and start accusing even though he hasn't given me a reason too. It just started getting worse. I just want to try getting that spark and our old selves back. Please help with any advice you can as it will be greatly appreciated.

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	Alyssa	13-Aug-09

My sister was in this same situation and how she made it work was, she suggested that they both move somewhere a little more distant from both families -to make it fair- Now if you have some issue that makes it hard to move, or you can't then Id say you should try spending more time away from him -hang with some friends, go shopping whatever- One of two things will happen: 1. He'll realize that he cares for you alot more and he'll make you more of a #1 priority than his mother or 2. He won't come around he'll stay the same and that's the point you're going to have to move on. Hopefully it doesn't come to that but that's the best advice I have for this situation.